Let’s start with the positives… my wife, how amazing is she… despite things not always going our way, she still manages to look this amazing (and no, she doesn’t always dress like this…three words…80’s rock festival).
Then yesterday I met up with a good friend of mine. Thus guy has always been there for me, he let me live with him when I had no where else to go, and I know if I ever needed him he would be there. He’s been going through a really tough patch with his girlfriend of late and this week he told me they have decided to call it a day on their 7 year relationship, and that he has discovered she has been less than honest with him.
They have one daughter together and she had a daughter from a previous relationship that he has looked after, loved and sees as his own.
I’ve know people go through break ups before, sometimes with kids, sometimes without…but on this occasion it has really got to me. How hard must this be, not just on my friend but on both of them. There are no words that can accurately articulate the pain in their hearts as they fight with the enormity of the decision they have made and the impact this will have on both of their lives and the lives of their children.
While as anyone who reads our blog posts knows we don’t have children and therefore of course I can not know the thoughts going through my friends head over the expected reduced time he will see his children, I can only presume it to be the most heart aching pain!
So why am I writing about this? Not to take sympathy on his behalf, but because it puts my pains in perspective. I know I will have a family with my amazing wife and I know that I will fight every day to put them and her first in everything that I do, but I accept there will be bumps in the road…
I will take the strength from my friends and family and I promise to work through the bumps in the road because at the end of the day, I already owe that to my wife for being the most amazing person, and I owe it to myself to be the best I can be.